Raising Trans Kids: What to Expect When You Weren’t Expecting This

With insight and compassion, social worker and gender specialist Minor guides parents and caregivers through how to best support transgender and gender-nonconforming children. Drawing from her professional practice and stories from parents, Minor deftly illustrates the importance of taking children seriously when they come out as trans or nonbinary, as well as the dangers of withholding support, such as depression and suicidal thoughts. Minor demystifies potentially unfamiliar terminology like neopronoun and third gender, equips readers with information on gender-affirming care, and validates safety concerns that parents might have as trans people experience social and political discrimination. She also debunks advice instructing parents to view their child’s shifting gender identity as a passing phase, arguing that people have the right to define their own identities regardless of age. In one poignant example, Minor shares the story of a cisgender gay couple who worried that their adopted child would be ostracized after coming out as nonbinary in middle school. Deconstructing their own rigid understanding of the gender binary allowed the couple to support and accept their child, ultimately leading to a stronger relationship. Seamlessly blending practical advice, emotional support, and research, this provides parents with the necessary tools to help transgender and gender-nonconforming children flourish. (Sept.)