Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion

Sex therapist Jamea weaves research and client stories into a solid debut guide to keeping intimacy alive in long-term relationships. According to the author, doing so involves achieving sexual “flow,” the state of complete focus and absorption in an activity where both parties become “one with whatever you’re doing.” To get there, readers can work on tapping into their senses through mindfulness exercises and breath work, as well as developing a “sensual eating” practice. Couples are also encouraged to cultivate curiosity by discussing what they’re experiencing in other areas of life and exploring ways to use their sexual connection to fulfill those emotional needs. While some chapters connect more convincingly to the author’s central concept than others—for instance, it’s made clear how curiosity can foster flow by helping couples reach the ideal blend of satisfaction and challenge, while the link between adaptability and flow is more obscure—Jamea’s robust research, nonjudgmental approach, and enthusiasm for the topic makes this a worthwhile guide. Couples looking to reignite their spark will want to check it out. (Nov.)